There is a female bird known as phalarope. Female phalaropes compete for males and they are much bigger than males in body mass. In juxtaposition, male turkeys have a much more colorful, splendid and glorious tail than the female and so are the female phalaropes much masculine and bigger than the males.
In the game of finding mates, female phalaropes are the ones who seek, approach, and date male phalaropes. In fact, according to the book, Mean Genes by Terry Burnham, PhD, “male [phalaropes] are the ones who take care of babies".
In short, a female phalarope is looking for a male who can protect the eggs and take care of babies. A female phalarope would, “even kill another female’s chicks if it [grants] her access to [that kind of] the male!”
The Moorhen
Lets look at another mating story of a bird known as moorhen. Moorhen, a bird that almost resembles a duck and, "lives in wet vegetated marshes" (Wikipedia), is another, "aggressive and nasty [female species]”.(Mean Genes). The “soft spoken one” is the male in this particular species. Male moorhens are the ones who incubate eggs. Therefore, female moorhen looks for a male with great body aesthetics and with great feathery body capable of sitting and incubate eggs.
The Red Deer
The last but not least in the animal mating-drama is that of a red deer. In the battle of who will get to fertilize the female and further their offspring, they compete. Competition involves who will roar the louder. If the roar is ruled equal by the females, they will move a level up to a, “parallel walk”. Parallel walk is where they’d walk besides each other “check[ing] each other out while strutting their stuff (if you know what that means).
If [the stuff] is significantly smaller than that of the opponent, the red deer in question withdraws [from the battle].” Then the female red deer will mate with the winner red deer. All these are battles of genetics – quality genes and an appealing male who can fertilize or incubate as well as protect the offspring.
Now, putting this into perspective, humans behave the same way as animals and birds. A woman, (just like the phalarope and the moorhen) is looking for a man who can incubate and fertilize her eggs and produce quality genetics and be able to protect the offspring. In that case, a strong man, both physically and financially is a key to that end. Strong body to fertilize and offer good genetics and finance to protect and sustain the offspring. This is why a man with a steady, sorted out, beautiful life in resemblance of a male turkey’s tail has tremendous potential to attract all kinds of females.
Tall, dark, and handsome is an undeniable cliché that females use to define an ultimate mating package. It speaks to them of men's fertility and virility. It is the evidence of machismo, the genetic confirmation that would translate to cute, healthy kids as well as sustainability of the resulting offspring.
No man or even another female can stop any woman in search of such a male.
Women rarely fight for average looking men who are broke. Also explains why they ignore short fat or slender men. There is no machismo and virility in such men and therefore worth no competition. Women fight for a rich, single, masculine and handsome man. It comes from our primal instincts. The search for the better genes.
They want masculine, six packs and the look of a badass. There is a reason that women have a knack for 'bad men'. (Note though, 'bad' men not cruel men.) Bad in a sense that they can fight and win. A prove of protection. The badass!
Women despise men who beat women. That is unnatural. It goes against the order of how mating system works. Male deer would not parallel walk with a female. It is unnatural.
A woman would instantly fall for a bouncer at the bar entrance with corrugated six packs and completely ignore the owner of the bar who is a short-fat bearded man driving a Benz and loaded with cash ! Or she would squeeze the cash out from the short-fat bar owner. In this case, the bouncer will, 'milk the cow.'
Men who lack the swag and attractive outlook, would only date enthralling gorgeous woman only if they entice them with luxuries to compensate for terrible genes.
Also a woman would ignore a masculine guy pushing a wheelbarrow and change her mind instantly when he sees the same guy riding a Harley Davidson with tattoo in his bicep.
There is a reason women want to touch those six packs and tattoos. It talks to them sexual stamina, strength, fecundity, badass!
The rounded protruding belly is not appealing unless, again, bundles of cash are involved.
But even with a cash loaded guy, a woman does not necessarily stop her search for better genes. Money is just the capability to protect and sustain the offspring. (And by the way, that explains why rich single moms don't care too much about men.)
If the quality of genes is not satisfying, most females are yet to reach the utopia. More likely than not, they will still crawl under the current unsatisfying male wings and mate with the better genes.
So, when you see a women looking for rich men or going for the most masculine ones, it is in their genes to do exactly that -search for a prime genetic package. She is not necessarily a gold digger. But even from this context of searching for ultimate mate, you may begin to understand the gold-digging women. But let us not confuse this quest with crime that involves drugging men just to steal their money.
The HourGlass
But even the men who gets drugged have themselves to blame. This is because men also look for hourglass shaped women who are also beautiful. In the book, Mean Genes, there is an explanation of how the fashion world rates women’s shape and beauty.
If the waist measurement divided by hip measurement exceeds 0.69-0.7, it is deemed not fit, not the hourglass figure and therefore not beautiful. Men's eyes are naturally curated to see such figure as beautiful.
Women do not even need to be slender to have 'figure 8'. Women of all sizes can hit, 'Figure 8' as long as their number hits between .69 and .7.
Men would still see the figure first before the face and they will notice the hourglass regardless of the woman's general body mass. It is said that men start from the thigh up while women start from face down.
Me or My Money
Men should stop demonizing women for loving the money. The question, 'Do you love me for me or for my money?' is unfair question to ask a woman. All through history men have unfairly dominated women. Crimes against women historically and even present have been again, unfairly high.
But men cannot continue haunting women even in the game of love! They know what they want and if they don't want you, leave them alone for there is no amount of convincing to stop them from their quest.
Women are dubbed whores or gold-diggers or the recent one, ‘slay queens’ if they seek men who have money. But what do we call men who want only women with the hourglass shape? Who only want women with big breasts and large behind? Even those we call big mamas or sugar mummies?
How do men justify objectifying women and condemn women when they objectify men as sources of money? It is the same concept with women looking for what they want in men as men look for what they want in women.
Conclusion
We are all in this game of mating just like animals. It is in our genes to look for the best of best for our offspring, sexual satisfaction, comfort, pride and protection.
So, inherently, we are all in the battle of finding the ultimate package. Quality genes. And regardless of where and how we find them, no one should demonize another while traipsing all over the village, the city or the world in this unstoppable, inherent journey of searching for what one deems best for continuation of their own individual offspring.